A Compliation from the Writings of
Ellen G. White|
The Need for Home Religion; Responsibility to Aged Parents
Manuscript Releases Volume Thirteen
In many families we hear very little affection expressed. The members of
the family seem cold and alienated, and regard all manner of expressions of affection as sentimental. There is no need of
sentimentalism, but there is need of thoughtful courtesy one toward another, of chaste, ennobling, dignified manifestations
of regard. Many who profess to love God seem to pride themselves on their hardness of heart. In language and action they reveal
a character that is an offense to God. The tenderest affection should be cherished in the family circle. Especially between
the husband and the wife should thoughtful love and refined courtesy ever be manifested. Brothers and sisters should never
act as though they did not love one another; they should learn to restrain hasty words and manifestations of impatience. Every
member of the family should manifest kindly affection one for another.
Variance Between Believers and Unbelievers
Bible Echo and Signs of the Times
But perhaps while one member of the family gives his heart to God, others
do not. They are still under the control of the Saviour's worst enemy, and they feel annoyed and angry that division has come
into their household. He who has accepted Christ is no less dutiful than before; on the contrary, he is more kind, more faithful,
more affectionate, because his nature is being purified, sanctified, and ennobled by the truth. But the Master of the Christian
and the master of the unbeliever are in deadly conflict; and so the contest goes on in many homes. While the Christians are
pleading earnestly with God that their relatives and friends may be drawn to Christ, while their hearts are breaking with
longing that their loved ones may share His joy and peace, the hearts of the unbelieving are bound as with fetters to Satan's
car, and they are asking, as did Pharaoh, "Who is the Lord, that I should obey His voice?" Again and again Jesus has knocked
at the door of their hearts, and asked admission; but they have locked the door, and refused to receive Him. They cherish
pride, envy, and hatred, and contention springs from these evil passions.
Man's Duty to His Fellow Men
Testimonies for the Church Volume Three
Whenever the mother can speak a word of commendation for the good conduct
of her children, she should do so. She should encourage them by words of approval and looks of love. These will be as sunshine
to the heart of a child and will lead to the cultivation of self-respect and pride of character. . . .
Testimonies for the Church Volume Seven
Remember, my dear brother and sister, that God is love and that by His grace
you can succeed in making each other happy, as in your marriage pledge you promised to do. And in the strength of the Redeemer
you can work with wisdom and power to help some crooked life to be straight in God. What is there that Christ cannot do? He
is perfect in wisdom, in righteousness, in love. Do not shut yourselves up to yourselves, satisfied to pour out all your affection
upon each other. Seize every opportunity to contribute to the happiness of those around you, sharing with them your affection.
Words of kindness, looks of sympathy, expressions of appreciation, would to many a struggling, lonely one be as a cup of cold
water to a thirsty soul. A word of cheer, an act of kindness, would go far to lighten the burdens that are resting heavily
upon weary shoulders. It is in unselfish ministry that true happiness is found. And every word and deed of such service is
recorded in the books of heaven as done for Christ. "Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these My brethren,"
He declares, "ye have done it unto Me." Matthew 25:40.
Character Tested By Small Occurrences
Advent Review and Sabbath Herald
Men and women are not fulfilling the design of God, when they simply express
affection for their own family circle, for their rich relatives and friends, while they exclude those from their love whom
they could comfort and bless by relieving their necessities. It is true that where large affection is manifested in the home
circle, it not only brightens the home and brings cheerfulness and happiness to the entire family, but if love is unselfish,
it will extend without the walls of the home. The manifestation of kindness, tenderness, Christian courtesy, is approved of
God. The affection manifested in the home is a manifestation of Christ's love that flows through him from the heart of infinite
love to bless the members of the family circle. It is love that will constitute the bliss of the heavenly family. Those who
cultivate love in the homelife will form characters after Christ's likeness, and they will be constrained to exert a helpful
influence beyond the family circle, in order that they may bless others by kind, thoughtful ministrations, by pleasant words,
by Christlike sympathy, by acts of benevolence. They will be quick to discern those who have hungry hearts, and will make
a feast for those who are needy and afflicted. Those who have heavenly discernment, who exercise tender regard for every member
of the family, will, in doing their whole duty, fit themselves to do a work that will brighten other homes, and will teach
others by precept and example what it is that will make home happy.
To H. Lindsay
The Ellen G. White 1888 Materials
Through our relation of friendship and familiarity with human beings like
ourselves, we may exert an uplifting influence. Those who are united in a common hope and faith in Christ Jesus can be a blessing
to one another. Jesus says, "Love one another as I have loved you." Love is not simply an impulse, a transitory emotion, dependent
upon circumstances; it is a living principle, a permanent power. The soul is fed by the streams of pure love that flow from
the heart of Christ, as a well-spring that never fails. O, how is the heart quickened, how are its motives ennobled, its affections
deepened, by this communion! Under the education and discipline of the Holy Spirit, the children of God love one another,
truly, sincerely, unaffectedly,-- "without partiality, and without hypocrisy." And this because the heart is in love with
Jesus. Our affection for one another springs from our common relation to God. We are one family, we love one another as he
loved us. When compared with this true, sanctified, disciplined affection, the shallow courtesy of the world, the meaningless
expressions of effusive friendship, are as chaff to the wheat.
The Sin of Covetousness
Testimonies for the Church Volume Three
though unseen, is ever at work in the affairs of men. God's hand can prosper or withhold, and He frequently withholds from
one while He seems to prosper another. All this is to test and prove men and to reveal the heart. He lets misfortune overtake
one brother while He prospers others to see if those whom He favors have His fear before their eyes and will perform the duty
enjoined upon them in His word to love their neighbor as themselves and to help their poorer brother from a love to do good.
Acts of generosity and benevolence were designed by God to keep the hearts of the children of men tender and sympathetic,
and to encourage in them an interest and affection for one another in imitation of the Master, who for our sakes became poor,
that we through His poverty might be made rich. The law of tithing was founded upon an enduring principle and was designed
to be a blessing to man.
The Work in the Cities
Testimonies for the Church Volume Nine
In loving sympathy and confidence God's workers are to unite with one another.
He who says or does anything that tends to separate the members of Christ's church is counterworking the Lord's purpose. Wrangling
and dissension in the church, the encouragement of suspicion and unbelief, are dishonoring to Christ. God desires His servants
to cultivate Christian affection for one another. True religion unites hearts not only with Christ, but with one another in
a most tender union. When we know what it means to be thus united with Christ and with our brethren, a fragrant influence
will attend our work wherever we go.
Dangers and Duties of Youth
Testimonies for the Church Volume Three
You need to cultivate love and affection for your parents and for your brothers
and sisters. "Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another; not slothful in business;
fervent in spirit; serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; distributing
to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.". . .
Are We in the Faith? (Gen. Conf., Nov. 11, 1883)
Second Advent Review and Sabbath Herald
Some of you seem to be earnestly struggling for forgiveness of sins, for
freedom in God. Do you deserve the pardon that you are seeking? No, you do not; nevertheless, it is given you. And do you
withhold from your brethren the forgiveness and affection of which you do not think them worthy? Would you have God deal thus
with you? Deal with your brethren as you wish God to deal with you. If we expect our prayers for forgiveness to be heard,
we must offer them in a forgiving spirit. We must forgive others in the same manner and to the same extent that we ourselves
hope to be forgiven. The hard-heartedness that professed Christians manifest toward one another is not Christ-like, but savors
of the Satanic. We must every one of us open our hearts wide to the love of Jesus, and encourage pity and affection for our
We should make it our daily care to cultivate sympathy and affection for
one another. This is the fruit that grows on the Christian tree; it does not produce the briers and thorns of hatred and strife.
The harsh, unsympathetic words we sometimes hear spoken, and the hardheartedness we see manifested, are wholly satanic, and
this spirit must be supplanted by the spirit of Christ. Jesus bids us, "Love one another, as I have loved you. . . . By this
shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another."[1 JOHN 13:34, 35.] He is our mighty Helper;
and if he abides in our hearts, we shall manifest his spirit. We shall love one another; we cannot help it; for he is love.
The Duty of Workers to Care for Their Health
Advent Review and Sabbath Herald
. . . Writing by the Spirit, Paul says: "As we have many members in one
body, and all members have not the same office: so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another."
"Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another
with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another; not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord; rejoicing
in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.
Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep." "Be
not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good."
Fortitude Under Affliction
Life Sketches of Ellen G. White
"The speaker's mind then turned to those blessed exhortations of the apostles
in reference to the relation which the members of the body of Christ should sustain one to another, and their bearing, words,
and actions toward one another. We were pointed to such passages as these: 'Be at peace among yourselves;' 'be kindly affectioned
one to another;' 'be kind;' 'be courteous;' 'speak the same thing;' 'be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in
the same judgment;' 'speak not evil one of another;' 'live in peace; and the God of love and peace shall be with you.'"
A Lesson from Israel's Sin--No. 2
Advent Review and Sabbath Herald
Peter exhorts his brethren: "Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto
the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth
grace to the humble." The apostle Paul also exhorts his Philippian brethren to love and unity: "If there be therefore any
consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies, fulfil ye my joy,
that ye be like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vain-glory;
but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man
also on the things of others." Again he says, "Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that
which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another."
Thankfulness, and the True Object of Our Affections
The Youth's Instructor
The young associating together might be a benefit instead of a curse. If
they had God's glory in view when they meet, they would watch their opportunity to do good, to correct a selfish, vain, trifling
spirit, exaltation and pride, and help one another. But there is but little of this faithfulness manifested among the young.
Many join hands to take the affections from Jesus, and center them upon each other. They unite in trifling and foolish conversation.
This affection cherished among them, is a curse. Let the affections first center in Christ, pass through the right channel,
be purified by his Spirit, then they will lead to a yearning of soul for each other, not to bundle together to their hurt,
but an earnest desire to have all share the gift of Jesus and his love.
In Every Place
Selected Messages Book 1
Christianity is the revealing of the tenderest affection for one another.
The Christian life is made up of Christian duties and Christian privileges. . . .
The Signs of the Times
We are admonished by the apostle: "Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor
that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring
one another." Paul would have us distinguish between the pure, unselfish love which is prompted by the spirit of Christ, and
the unmeaning, deceitful pretense with which the world abounds. This base counterfeit has misled many souls. It would blot
out the distinction between right and wrong, by agreeing with the transgressor instead of faithfully showing him his errors.
Such a course never springs from real friendship. The spirit by which it is prompted dwells only in the carnal heart. While
the Christian will be ever kind, compassionate, and forgiving, he can feel no harmony with sin. He will abhor evil and cling
to that which is good, at the sacrifice of association or friendship with the ungodly. The spirit of Christ will lead us to
hate sin, while we are willing to make any sacrifice to save the sinner.
A Happy Life
My Life Today
Kindness and love and courtesy are the marks of the Christian. . . . In
our association with each other let it be ever remembered that there are chapters in the experience of others that are sealed
from mortal eyes; there are sad histories that are written in the books of heaven but are sacredly guarded from prying eyes.
There stand registered long, hard battles with trying circumstances, arising in the very homes, that day by day sap the courage,
the faith, the confidence, until the very manhood seems to fall to ruins. But Jesus knows it all, and He never forgets. To
such, words of kindness and of affection are welcome as the smile of angels; a strong, helpful grasp of the hand of a true
friend is worth more than gold and silver.
The Christian Pathway
The Signs of the Times
"The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness,
goodness, faith, meekness , temperance." When these fruits appear in the life, a telling influence will be exerted upon the
world. The truly converted man will cease aspiring to be thought great. He will not seek for worldly honor, nor for luxury,
ease, or wealth; neither will he be sensitive to reproach or neglect. "If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature; old
things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." Self is no longer the supreme object of love; family and friends
are no longer the boundary. His heart is enlarged. Jesus has the first place in his affections; he loves Christians, because
he sees in them the image of his Master, and all mankind with a love that prompts him to do them good. This is the fruit growing
on the true Vine, more precious in the sight of God than all the wealth and learning of earth's great men.
The Fannie Bolton Story
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True and abiding happiness can never be derived from any human being. We
may have special, select friends that, all unperceived and unacknowledged by us, we place in the heart where God should be,
and we can never perfect a round, full Christian experience until every earthly support is removed, and the soul centers its
entire affections about God. "Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it: Except the Lord keep the
city, the watchmen waketh but in vain."